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As adult survivors of child sexual abuse, our rights are limited in the United States.

The Statute of Limitations stand in our way of seeking justice.
This is unacceptable!

Our first goal is to heal our bodies, minds, hearts and souls,
so that we may live normal, healthy and HAPPY lives.

Our second goal is to change the laws for each state.
We need to enlighten the lawmakers in each state.
We need the laws to reflect the problem.
We need the law to allow us the ability to heal when we finally feel safe.
Part of our healing should be the right to bring predators to justice.

I hope you will help make a stand against the Statutes of Limitations for each state,
affect change for the outdated, unrealistic Statutes that need to be changed!
Together, we can make it possible to bring predators to justice.

June 18th, 2006 - Father's Day - it was good for me!
I confronted my father.

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Read about it in my blog under
Confronting My Father

Read THE LETTER >>>

E. Sue Blume has granted permission for Sadly Normal
to post the Incest Survivors' Aftereffects Checklist.
This is the original, unabridged version.

May 1st - I was honored with the opportunity to meet, speak with, and hug my hero...
Angela Shelton.

Read More>>>

Purchase SFAS by clicking banners on SN,
and Angela will share 10% with SN

If you are a survivor, and have made the decision to heal...
CONGRATULATIONS!
It will be the hardest thing you ever do,
but the most worthwhile journey you will ever make!

If you know a survivor going through the healing process...
Offer your support, your shoulder, your ears, and your heart.
Do what you can to help keep her/him feeling safe and comfortable.

An excerpt from "Keeping Children Safe: Rhetoric and Reality"
by Ernest E. Allen

In 1985, research conducted by Dr. Gene Abel of Emory University in Atlanta examined a group of sex offenders. Funded by the National Institute of Mental Health, Dr. Abel's research concluded that the typical sexual offender against children is male, begins molesting by age 15, engages in a variety of deviant behavior, and "molests an average of 117 youngsters, most of whom do not report the offense."

"Maybe your website along with more people like yourself speaking
out and becoming involved will help in moving legislation forward."
-Rep. Monty Davenport
Arkansas Legislature

~~April~~ is Every Month should be

Every month we need to be aware of Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence,
Child Sexual Abuse and Rape.
Keep your eyes open.
Be aware! Be vigilant! Be ready to do your part!

Events to raise sexual assault awareness in your area?
If you know of an event, please email franki@sadlynormal.org.
Please include the following information:
Name of Event, Date and Time, Location (include city and state),
Cost, Description of event, and
Contact Information (phone number or email address)
Any special instructions (parking, etc)

The following was sent in reply to my original email.
Other replies from State Representatives are available. Select your state
and then Legislator Replies on the left side menu.

"Hi <edited> and thank you for sharing your sad life story and effect it has on you and others. I know some people who have gone through your hell and do support amendments to existing laws and new ones to help victims, but prevention of crimes, accidents and deseases is key. However, laws and regulations do not change people unfortunately.
Best wishes, Mike"
- Rep Mike Jaros
Minnesota

           I am sadly normal
            1 out of every 3 women and 1 out of every 5 men have been sexually
            abused by someone they trust by the time they are 18 years old.

        I am sadly normal
           We feel unimportant, discounted, worthless, shameful, powerless,
           unlovable.

        I am sadly normal
           We are forced to hide within ourselves by our abusers.

        I am sadly normal
            We are forced to keep our dirty little secrets.
            It's easy to do because we believe it was our fault.

The following was sent to me by a fellow survivor.
She said "You honor what Eliot stated. Thank you."
After researching the quote, George Eliot was the pseudonym
for Mary Ann Evans.

Please be patient as I work to get this site up.
I am still on my healing journey too.
Thank you,
Franki

His victim I once was, he thought forever more.
A survivor I now am, Knocking down his door!!!!

(This was sent to me... I apologize for not knowing who wrote it...
but I think it's great!)